The AA's wife

She might consider attending al-anon for a year or two, though I'm sure she's been told as much.  I've frequently seen situations where the spouse attending al-anon faithfully for a year or two serves as the catalyst necessary for the cessation of drinking for the alcoholic

 Well, attending is a good start, but in order for it to work she has to attend, get a sponsor and work the steps.  Attending a meeting is like going to the emergency room; it's worth the trip, but only if you talk to the doctor.